How do you find reveal your secret?

[Big Z]

All my life I thought I was the only man in the whole wide world who loved to drive his dick into shoes. I've spent most of my life trying to hide it and to this day noone has ever really caught me, and to be honest with you my friends sometimes im even ashamed of it, mostly because I have little or no control over it and I behave rather odd when the desire and the temptation comes over me, if see a nice fairly worn sneaker walk past me on the street or I goto someones house and they leave a pair of worn boots unattended I transform into a mindless shoe violator, do I enjoy it!? OH HELL YEAH! and somehow nomatter how many people are present I seem to always manage to enjoy there shoes or boots without them ever finding out or being suspicious, but the problem I seem to be having and my stress comes from the fact that I hate not being able to share it with anyone or even the idea with anyone else, my question to you guys is how do you guys and even the women if any are in here, how do you deal with it if at all? im not trying to give a sad sodding story, im simply trying to learn how to maybe be more relaxed with the way I am, Pumpjob you from what I can tell have a wife whos aware of your love for shoes and obviously participates in it with you, how do you know who to reveal it too? many times i've thought in my head what would happen if I got caught or told my secret to the wrong person, and that horrifies me. Any tips or suggestions would be appreciated.

PS: Thank you guys for listening, its always good to get support from fellow friends.

[heelos maximus]

i can relate to your felings totally. unfortunately though i too do not know the answer. i have been battling with my own head over this for ever.

I told an ex once. i kinda wish i hadn't. although she tried to get into it, i know that she really didn't get it. in fact, as i've said before, in the end i think she saw my shoes amost as another woman! i made her promise not to tell anyone when we split but you know (this is not a sexist statement, merely an observation...), women like to talk..........

i told a female friend last christmas when i was feeling dead low and well and truly under the influence. she heard but she didn't really listen and conversations about it have been limited and seem to be more about the fact that she privileged to know my secret and how she's proud she's kept it to herself . . .

i am bored of keeping it to myself and i, as i'm sure you do, want to share this thing (something quite amazing) with someone or even some people but i'm too scared of how they might react.


it's been really pecking my head the past few months. if i don't get it off my chest with someone i know soon, i think i'm going to explode. i'll let you know when i do and you can have all my shoes........

[heelos maximus]

shouldn't this discussion be in the main forum???

[Big Z]

I posted it in the main forum thingy and it disapeared and was placed here, so I guess this is where the people in charge want it.

[MadAboutShoes]

Hi there guys. Well I have been having sex with shoes since I was old enough to cum and in some ways even before. As a crossdresser I also love wearing them and have been doing that since I was very young. I totally understand how hard it can sometimes be to live with these secrets.

I have almost told several women about these secrets but after asking several probing questions thought that it would not be a good idea. It has been my experience that women, in general, don't except kinky stuff like this well. I know there are exceptions but I have yet to meet them

I have told a few guys though. In all cases I have met them on the net and found out that we lived close to one another. In every case we have had a great time. I know this can be dangorous and I'm not telling anyone to do it but I think I have been pretty safe about it.

Anyway if you are truely looking for someone to confide in and be excepting of this sexy, wonderful, perversion then may I suggest another person like yourself, a guy whoes into the same thing. You don't have to be gay. You don't have to touch each other or do anything together. You could simply barrow each other's wife's shoes or something like that. You can still keep up the search for those hard to find women that are into it.

I know I feel better for it. I have, in the past, been so stressed out by keeping these secrets to myself that I thought I would explode. Now I don't have those feelings near as often and I think I'm a happier person in general for it.

Ok... just food for thought. I know this is a long post. If you have gotten this far, thank you. You must have an open mind at any rate.

Good luck.
bye for now...

[shoelover_teresa]

Hi,

I hope I can help. First thing I have to say is that sometimes people don't share your love of high heels, let alone messing them up or as tools for sexual gratification. But, there are those that do share in this intrest as well. I know, I'm one of them! Yes women can also find sex with shoes to be just as much fun as you guys have. There aren't a lot of us out here, but we are here! As far as sharing your desires, i'd choose carefully, i lot a few boyfriends in time because they didn't "get it" and as such, they didn't "get me". I've had a shoe fetish since I was 12. But enough about me, I just think sometimes if you love somebody but can't share this secret with them, then maybe they aren't the one for you.

As far as just telling someone about your fetish to get it off your chest, well then look no further. I'd enjoy the email, let alone the conversation with a like minded individual.

So whenever your desires and urges are getting too intense, just share it with one of us. Last thing you want is to tell someone who doesn't understand.

So drop me a line.

Love,
Teresa

[Big Z]

I'd be happy to talk with you about it, whats your email?

[shoelover_teresa]

just click email on the bottom bar beneath my photos.

Can't wait to talk with you.
Teresa

[heelos maximus]

hello again,

i've been reading this page with interest because i too feel the need to share my shoe experiance. i was thinking of setting up a little website-just one of those free ones-so i can share my shoe experiences with people and they can share theirs.

you know when you buy a new pair, you just wanna go 'look, check these out they'r great aren't they?' or if you get your hands on a pair of some womans shoes and get to have your wicked way with them, you wanna tell someone cos you're excited about it-i thought i could do this on my own little site and then people can send their stories too. i want it to be for people who feel like i do about shoes but feel wierd about it. somewhere to exchange thoughts about the love of womens shoes, good and bad (!!!).

i have actually started designing one but i'm not sure it's ready for release yet. i'll let you know if or when.

[Wetshoe]

As far as sharing your desires, i'd choose carefully, i lot a few boyfriends in time because they didn't "get it" and as such, they didn't "get me". I've had a shoe fetish since I was 12. But enough about me, I just think sometimes if you love somebody but can't share this secret with them, then maybe they aren't the one for you.

As far as just telling someone about your fetish to get it off your chest, well then look no further. I'd enjoy the email, let alone the conversation with a like minded individual.

So whenever your desires and urges are getting too intense, just share it with one of us. Last thing you want is to tell someone who doesn't understand.

i know what you mean. often when girlfriends aren't into the same things, you just lose interest after the initial excitement. i always tell them though.

heelos, looking forward to seeing your new site.

i think this thread should actually be in the shoe job forum. want me to move it there?