How to get what you want?

[Humblebee1975]

All Right,

North Belgium/South Holland here...

I have a boot- and High-heel fetish for all my life. I keep having, and dreaming about fantasies about being forced to worship, or lick boots, and high heelas (heavily in bondage even . I'll leave the former up to my Dominant.

I'm in a great marriage, but my wife is very vanilla when it comes to "fetish" stuff. I'm up to the point that I can no longer deny my humble feelings to fall on my knees for people wearing leather boots. Very hard when you're shopping, walking over the street, or even teaching students (I teach adult students, and every now and then,... well,... imagine 3 or 4 middle-aged women with knee-high boots... very hard not to start a conversation about that)

So,

How can I give in to my fetish, approach women while being secretive - and most important - without "sexual harassement" - and still being secretive, coz I'm in a great marriage.

I think THAT's a real hard puzzle to crack...

But I wanna crack it SOOOOOOOO hard!

[boot.perv]

All Right,

North Belgium/South Holland here...

I have a boot- and High-heel fetish for all my life. I keep having, and dreaming about fantasies about being forced to worship, or lick boots, and high heelas (heavily in bondage even . I'll leave the former up to my Dominant.

I'm in a great marriage, but my wife is very vanilla when it comes to "fetish" stuff. I'm up to the point that I can no longer deny my humble feelings to fall on my knees for people wearing leather boots. Very hard when you're shopping, walking over the street, or even teaching students (I teach adult students, and every now and then,... well,... imagine 3 or 4 middle-aged women with knee-high boots... very hard not to start a conversation about that)

So,

How can I give in to my fetish, approach women while being secretive - and most important - without "sexual harassement" - and still being secretive, coz I'm in a great marriage.

I think THAT's a real hard puzzle to crack...

But I wanna crack it SOOOOOOOO hard!

Wow, that's quite a problem you have there.

A lot this comes from the fact that you didn't vet your wife before you got married, to see if she would be into your boot fetish. In my case, once I become intimate with a woman, I'll come clean about my boot fetish. A couple left me because they found it unappealing, but many of them stayed. If you are contemplating getting some boot sex on the side, then your marriage isn't as great as you claim.

If your wife won't get into your boot fetish with you, then she's being a selfish cunt. If she refuses to have boot sex play with you, then you're never going to get your needs met by her. But you decided to put a ring on her finger, and if you don't have any kids yet, you should be thinking about an exit strategy with your relationship. If you resort to hiring a prostitute, she might find out and get mad. But even worse, if you find a lover who will engage in boot play with you, then your time with your wife is doomed. Most women aren't idiots and your wife will eventually find out.

And I beg you, please stay away from your students! Women have a financial incentive to put a man in trouble these days. It's just too risky with all the #MeToo laws.

I think you should give it one more try with your wife. Offer to take her boot shopping, on the condition that you get to be her boot salesman who zip up her boots for her in the store. My last GF and I used to play this little game a couple times a year, and she had a lot of fun being "bad" and teasing me in the store. Then we'd get a room in a hotel where I'd get blow jobs and boot jobs and fuck her like the horny dog she really is. Most women love a little fantasy role play, after all, 50 Shades of Grey was the best selling novel of all time. Plus, after she realizes how much better you fuck her while wearing boots, she'll be more open to other types of boot sex. Before my first wife and I were married (we were in our 20s) I took her boot shopping and we bought a pair, and when she wore her new boots to bed, I fucked her so hard she came all over the place, and she started wearing her boots every day for me.

One thing you'll have to keep telling your wife is that you love her for herself, and not just for the boots. And you have to make it like a game and not a chore. That way, she'll want to continue wearing boots for you. I think of how much fun my GF and I had when we had a 3 hour drive and she wore shorts and OTK boots the whole way home. Of course, I was throbbing the whole time, and she'd place her booted foot in my lap at times. It was torture, but it ended very well!

Now I can't tell you what to do with your life, but if she won't play boot salesman games with you, then she is an insufferable bitch and you should get the hell out of there. Unless you have kids, which makes it immeasurably bad. There are other guys in this forum who had their wives come around for them and start wearing boots for them. So that's your best hope. Once your wife realizes that she needs to please you your own way, and that your relationship kind of depends on that, she'll realize she's made a mistake. But don't play your trump card until she absolutely refuses. It's way better to have your boot fetish be a fun part of sex than an obligation.

[bootlick802]

You might be scared to talk to your wife. I was and I tried buying her sexy outfits for birthdays, anniversary, etc, and then I said I wanted to buy her boots just for the bedroom, but wanted her to pick them out. I told her I wanted her to pick out ones that make her feel sexy, but are also her style. (She won’t wear stilettos). It worked, she was turned on by going shopping that day and I accidentally came before I could even fuck her when she had the boots on. She was so flattered by that. Since then, there’s a definite unspoken power and control that she has when she wears boots out or in the bedroom. I used to offer to help take her boots off when we come home from a night out, now she sits on the couch and points her boots out and just looks at me and I know to get down on my knees and take them off for her. I won’t get to fuck her in boots that time, but she will rub them on my crotch before they come off and we go up to fuck. It’s been a long process but my wife went from being vanilla all the time, to experimenting with domination, control and boots and still being vanilla. She’s even made me eat my cum out of her until I get hard again so I can “fuck her like she should be fucked” when she was drunk one night. I’ve told her I like that I never know what I’m going to get with her and our sex life is wild now after 12 years of marriage. It takes time but if you’re careful, hopefully you’ll both get over that initial awkwardness and have a great long marriage because of it.

[Net King]

Also some luck to it. It may just come out of the blue when the occasion is right. So patience is useful and do not try to force the issue too hard.

[bootlick802]

100% Net King! I’ve been very lucky, but it’s been like a 7 year process of slowly grooming my wife to enjoy her power as a woman- back rubs and foot rubs as I wake up almost every day without being asked and showing her how hard I get from serving her. Making sure she cums, going down on her all the time, all these things add up.

[hedna]

...If your wife won't get into your boot fetish with you, then she's being a selfish cunt...

...but if she won't play boot salesman games with you, then she is an insufferable bitch...

Usually just on here for the boot porn, but holy fuck what an attitude you have.

OP - talk to your wife, romanticize wanting to fuck around with boots. Presumably you love one another, so just be brave and bring it up. People don't really like change, but they will happily do it for people they love. Talk to her about it and you'll be fine!

[fs483]

Here's my story. I always loved seeing women in boots and high heels also gloves. So when I first started dating my now wife, I always hoped she would wear stiletto boots. Unfortunately she was more of chunky heel round toe boot wearer. I was a bit disappointed but still liked going out with her. As we dated more and more, we would go window shopping and slowly I would hint her that the stiletto or thin heeled boots look very nice. Eventually she surprised me one weekend by wearing thin heeled boots on a date. We only met on weekends because we didn't live very close to each other and both have very busy work schedules. As time went on, she bought other boots and would wear them only for me. After we got married, I told her if she would wear boots for sex. She didn't really like the idea because the boots worn outside were dirty and she agreed to shop for a pair of sex boots. We got a pair and I would ask very nicely if she would wear boots and stockings during sex. Next came the leather gloves... 14 years later, she still wears leather gloves for me when we have sex. Boots not so much. She's afraid of injuring me with the sharp heels or puncturing the sheets. Also now we have 2 young kids in the house so it's hard to get some us time. Having quick sex with gloves is ok but getting all dressed out is a bit hard and you never know when they can pop in... When we go out, she still wears stiletto boots/pumps for me. Do bear in mind, she is ultra conservative and shy but I've gotten her to wear leather skirts and dresses. She was always wearing jeans and grandma cotton long sleeves before meeting me. Can't get her to wear g strings though... I won't push it either.

[boot.perv]

... She's afraid of injuring me with the sharp heels or puncturing the sheets. Also now we have 2 young kids in the house so it's hard to get some us time. Having quick sex with gloves is ok but getting all dressed out is a bit hard and you never know when they can pop in... When we go out, she still wears stiletto boots/pumps for me.

One thing I do is to smooth out the sharp corners and edges on the heels with an emery board or sandpaper. That can avoid any cuts you might get with brand new boots, and it doesn't affect the look or walk of those boots.

I have 3 kids, and when they were young, I'd hire a babysitter and treat my ex wife to dinner and a romp. I'd rent a room for the night at a motel, we'd use it for a couple hours, then shower up and come home. For some reason, my ex would feel extra naughty doing it in a motel, and she'd be way more adventurous with sex, when there's no chance of the kids walking in on us.

[boot.perv]

...If your wife won't get into your boot fetish with you, then she's being a selfish cunt...

...but if she won't play boot salesman games with you, then she is an insufferable bitch...

Usually just on here for the boot porn, but holy fuck what an attitude you have.

OP - talk to your wife, romanticize wanting to fuck around with boots. Presumably you love one another, so just be brave and bring it up. People don't really like change, but they will happily do it for people they love. Talk to her about it and you'll be fine!

I guess I do have an attitude, don't I? I love pleasing a woman, and I'm very open-minded about attending to her desires. Having a boot or shoe fetish isn't all that strange, but some people make a big deal about it. I think intimate relationships should be a two-way street, at least if you're both generous people. We're not talking about BDSM or unsanitary practices here, but if that floats someone's boat, you do you. I've met women who were very particular about how you treat them during sex, but don't give a damn about what the guy wants, and IMO that's just selfish.

[fs483]

... She's afraid of injuring me with the sharp heels or puncturing the sheets. Also now we have 2 young kids in the house so it's hard to get some us time. Having quick sex with gloves is ok but getting all dressed out is a bit hard and you never know when they can pop in... When we go out, she still wears stiletto boots/pumps for me.

One thing I do is to smooth out the sharp corners and edges on the heels with an emery board or sandpaper. That can avoid any cuts you might get with brand new boots, and it doesn't affect the look or walk of those boots.

I have 3 kids, and when they were young, I'd hire a babysitter and treat my ex wife to dinner and a romp. I'd rent a room for the night at a motel, we'd use it for a couple hours, then shower up and come home. For some reason, my ex would feel extra naughty doing it in a motel, and she'd be way more adventurous with sex, when there's no chance of the kids walking in on us.

ON the contraire with my wife. She hates hotel/motel. Hotel might look clean but are they really! And the stories of hidden cams! Don't think it happens too much in North America at least not in the average Holiday Inn... Like I said, she is very conservative and prefers lights off and blinds shut just to avoid a peeping Tom with a telescope! We try to slip one in during the day when the kids are at school but then there's the delivery guy that rings at the door and my parents that have keys to my place to drop off things... Yeah not super sexy. Did have a good time a few years back in Punta Cana without the kids but then again, we only brought a few articles. Luckily no luggage inspection at the airport! Well I can I say is I'm blessed and satisfied with what I have!