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[68newman]

I, personally, would love to have a thread (or even better, a subforum?) where we actually discuss challenges of dealing with the fetish in a non-judgemental way. I like the idea of being able to post about experiences or desires not necessarily to titilate others, but rather to talk about them among a group of people who understand what it is like to be attracted to shoes.

I've been going to therapy not to focus on my fetish, but being a part of me of course it came up. And it's interesting to see that my fetish actually seems to come from something non-sexual but has been sexualized as I grew. I'm sure this is common for others with this fetish or other fetishes.

[Bandolinohaze]

I, personally, would love to have a thread (or even better, a subforum?) where we actually discuss challenges of dealing with the fetish in a non-judgemental way. I like the idea of being able to post about experiences or desires not necessarily to titilate others, but rather to talk about them among a group of people who understand what it is like to be attracted to shoes.

I've been going to therapy not to focus on my fetish, but being a part of me of course it came up. And it's interesting to see that my fetish actually seems to come from something non-sexual but has been sexualized as I grew. I'm sure this is common for others with this fetish or other fetishes.

68 I think you have hit on something.it would awesome for this thread to generate its own subforum where we discuss the fetish ina non-titulating way,but help us recover and understand.as you say how shoes which are not actually sexual gets sexualized so easily and so much.

[shoddy90]

When I found this board it was a relief to know I was not alone, that there were others who shared at least some of my interests, but while I have thought it may only be regarding my particular shoe interests, it does seem there is now less interaction and even attendance to the board generally.
Some regular contributers seem to have gone, although where I am unsure, there seem to be a few possibilities, and while there are things on this board in more recent times which are not to my taste nor even relevant to the subject of shoe fetish at all, the type of thread mentioned would be an appropriate and even useful addition.
Perhaps away from the particular topic of this thread, some of the nearly 4000 members or others who have looked at it, may feel more inclined to add their comments or share thoughts and experiences, I guess we will see.

I have created a topic called Living with a shoefetish, a place where those who want or feel a need to share/discuss, get others opinions, or offload anything related to the fetish, can do so.

[Scuffy]

I, personally, would love to have a thread (or even better, a subforum?) where we actually discuss challenges of dealing with the fetish in a non-judgemental way. I like the idea of being able to post about experiences or desires not necessarily to titilate others, but rather to talk about them among a group of people who understand what it is like to be attracted to shoes.

I've been going to therapy not to focus on my fetish, but being a part of me of course it came up. And it's interesting to see that my fetish actually seems to come from something non-sexual but has been sexualized as I grew. I'm sure this is common for others with this fetish or other fetishes.

I do agree with this.

For now, we have the "Off topic silliness" subforum for everything from introductions to thoughtful topics, but I think it should be rename to something more like general discussion.

[Scuffy]

When I found this board it was a relief to know I was not alone, that there were others who shared at least some of my interests, but while I have thought it may only be regarding my particular shoe interests, it does seem there is now less interaction and even attendance to the board generally.
Some regular contributers seem to have gone, although where I am unsure, there seem to be a few possibilities, and while there are things on this board in more recent times which are not to my taste nor even relevant to the subject of shoe fetish at all, the type of thread mentioned would be an appropriate and even useful addition.
Perhaps away from the particular topic of this thread, some of the nearly 4000 members or others who have looked at it, may feel more inclined to add their comments or share thoughts and experiences, I guess we will see.

I have created a topic called Living with a shoefetish, a place where those who want or feel a need to share/discuss, get others opinions, or offload anything related to the fetish, can do so.

Where did you place this topic " Living with a shoefetish,?"

I also think beside this forum, there are plenty of shoes discussion on youtube, twitter, facebook, tumblr, worldpress, and other social network and blogs sites. Though finding them can sometime be a challenge.

[shoddy90]

Hi Scuffy.
Don't think off topic silliness would be the right place; unless I misunderstand its purpose.
I did struggle with an appropriate title but finally settled upon living with a shoefetish.
Not much take-up yet, so can only hope it is the useful addition some seemed to wish for.
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[Bandolinohaze]

I, personally, would love to have a thread (or even better, a subforum?) where we actually discuss challenges of dealing with the fetish in a non-judgemental way. I like the idea of being able to post about experiences or desires not necessarily to titilate others, but rather to talk about them among a group of people who understand what it is like to be attracted to shoes.

I've been going to therapy not to focus on my fetish, but being a part of me of course it came up. And it's interesting to see that my fetish actually seems to come from something non-sexual but has been sexualized as I grew. I'm sure this is common for others with this fetish or other fetishes.

I am going to a counselor and now couseling others .like you newman, not originally for the shoefetish itself,but once i delved into the fetish with my counselor.then repressed memories tumbled out.Since the threapy has been mostly about my sexualization of shoes based on childhood and adolescent experiences i had. I hope any of this leads to discussion of the whys we we have of the fetish and the amens we made to those whose shoes we sexualized and stole,borrowed or bought. If I am out ona limb here so be it.

[shrimper]

I, personally, would love to have a thread (or even better, a subforum?) where we actually discuss challenges of dealing with the fetish in a non-judgemental way. I like the idea of being able to post about experiences or desires not necessarily to titilate others, but rather to talk about them among a group of people who understand what it is like to be attracted to shoes.

I've been going to therapy not to focus on my fetish, but being a part of me of course it came up. And it's interesting to see that my fetish actually seems to come from something non-sexual but has been sexualized as I grew. I'm sure this is common for others with this fetish or other fetishes.

I am going to a counselor and now couseling others .like you newman, not originally for the shoefetish itself,but once i delved into the fetish with my counselor.then repressed memories tumbled out.Since the threapy has been mostly about my sexualization of shoes based on childhood and adolescent experiences i had. I hope any of this leads to discussion of the whys we we have of the fetish and the amens we made to those whose shoes we sexualized and stole,borrowed or bought. If I am out ona limb here so be it.

I'd like to hear what you have recovered/discovered about your sexualization of shoes. Personally I don't believe most psychobabble about paraphilias.

[Bandolinohaze]

I, personally, would love to have a thread (or even better, a subforum?) where we actually discuss challenges of dealing with the fetish in a non-judgemental way. I like the idea of being able to post about experiences or desires not necessarily to titilate others, but rather to talk about them among a group of people who understand what it is like to be attracted to shoes.

I've been going to therapy not to focus on my fetish, but being a part of me of course it came up. And it's interesting to see that my fetish actually seems to come from something non-sexual but has been sexualized as I grew. I'm sure this is common for others with this fetish or other fetishes.

I am going to a counselor and now couseling others .like you newman, not originally for the shoefetish itself,but once i delved into the fetish with my counselor.then repressed memories tumbled out.Since the threapy has been mostly about my sexualization of shoes based on childhood and adolescent experiences i had. I hope any of this leads to discussion of the whys we we have of the fetish and the amens we made to those whose shoes we sexualized and stole,borrowed or bought. If I am out ona limb here so be it.

I'd like to hear what you have recovered/discovered about your sexualization of shoes. Personally I don't believe most psychobabble about paraphilias.

Paraphilia-- i had to look it up! Anyway If what we do isnt paraphilia it is very close.My counseling and what i am counseling others about.Okay Counseling is on, not having the ability to have intimacy with females without having shoes involve and with my need to be a transvestite or transsexual. In my experience that had kiilled all my relationships. What was repressed in my life was that that the person who I usualy refer to as my aunt in my posts honestly .not only did she not catch me in her closet but on her own before i really could have sexual desires,had me preform masturbation into her shoes and into her mouth.So I counselothers to help them overcome chidlhood sexual abuse.Maybe not all of us have paraphilias a bout shoes,but i do.

[Bandolinohaze]

More..What i have figured out on my own, that my sponsor confirms and agrees with, about how i feel towards shoes. is masturbation with shoes and or while being a transvestite is the only fully pleasureful sex i experience.My sponsor assumes am I this way because I am trying to relive and undo my experience of childhood sexual abuse.This lady a neighbor who was watching me,cooerced me to masturbate with her shoes over several times over several yearsYes She had great shoes and occasionally she did not dictate how i stole her shoes and masturbated them. most of the time though she controlled all of it.