Shoesession

Hey Klausdaniel,
I’ve heard about this before.
It creates a strong attraction and focus for the object until you like it more than normal, imagining how it can be enjoyable on ourselves and others.

When a girl wears sneakers I believe that many people with this fetish, over liking the aesthetic appearance, we think or imagine what she can feel wearing them: comfort, nonchalance, feeling of greater freedom in movements, sweating feet (and smells emanating) and other.

When I was 10-12 years old, during the summer holidays I was in a small group of friends where there was a girl who loved to be the center of attention and often wore very cool Nike Air Max (I don’t remember the exact model). I really liked her and she was one of the first girls to unleash hormonal storms on me.
One time while we were playing someone grabbed her sweatpants and for a few seconds she had her ass uncovered, glad to show it to us.
Sometimes she kicked us (painlessly).

During teenage years the girls I liked most often wore cool and fashionable sneakers from the most famous brands.

This is one of the possible ways a fetish sneaker can start.

klausdaniel wrote: Fri Mar 04, 2022 10:06 am Once, a girlfriend I had told me "do you love sneakers more than me?"

This is extremely important! The sneakers should only be a small part of the relationship, not the only thing in the relationship. So make sure there is more to the relationship than just her sneakers.

Net King wrote: Sat Mar 05, 2022 2:24 pm

klausdaniel wrote: Fri Mar 04, 2022 10:06 am Once, a girlfriend I had told me "do you love sneakers more than me?"

This is extremely important! The sneakers should only be a small part of the relationship, not the only thing in the relationship. So make sure there is more to the relationship than just her sneakers.

My friend, that happened more than 2 decades ago... I've changed, and I've changed sexual partner, one that is very kind with me and my fetish.

Studies Show(tm) that as far as prevalence of various fetishes go, shoe fetish is almost exclusively a male one. (As noted by someone else, research in this area is somewhat fraught, since there's lots of incentives to lie and many sample populations will have majority men already. Grains of salt apply.) I've personally met one or two biological women who had a "shoe fetish", but it was never clear if they meant it in the same way that most of us do by using that term. I'd imagine it manifests somewhat differently. If only due to different, uh, hardware available.

Reifism has been definitively shown to be strongly correlated with being gay (male-male). But that's foot fetish specifically, which doesn't necessarily have that much overlap with liking sneakers or other shoes specifically. Paraphilias (fetishes for inanimate objects) in general are somewhat more prevalent in men than women. There's some suggestion that being on the autism spectrum is correlated with paraphilias, probably in the same way as other "intense interests" like trains and cars, but I don't know how robust that link is. Not usually a focus of the studies on autism.

Completely coincidentally, I myself am both autistic and transgender. The latter of which very likely has some overlap with brain wiring for homosexuality. I've not heard about any relation to breastfeeding, but sexuality is definitely influenced by testosterone exposure during fetal development. So perhaps the causal chain implies fetal testosterone levels are also linked to shoe fetish.

visitor9000 wrote: Sun Mar 13, 2022 9:28 pm Studies Show(tm) that as far as prevalence of various fetishes go, shoe fetish is almost exclusively a male one. (As noted by someone else, research in this area is somewhat fraught, since there's lots of incentives to lie and many sample populations will have majority men already. Grains of salt apply.)

I also noticed and read this.
Women have different fetishes than men. They feel them and live them differently.

visitor9000 wrote: Sun Mar 13, 2022 9:28 pm I've personally met one or two biological women who had a "shoe fetish", but it was never clear if they meant it in the same way that most of us do by using that term. I'd imagine it manifests somewhat differently. If only due to different, uh, hardware available.

What I never realized is that there are so many women who wear sneakers with satisfaction and good taste in fashion but they never consider them useful for herselfs or that some men like to see that she wear them.
Sneakers are more comfortable than heels, have a nice and pleasant aesthetic appearance, can be useful or facilitate some sexual positions.

visitor9000 wrote: Sun Mar 13, 2022 9:28 pm Reifism has been definitively shown to be strongly correlated with being gay (male-male).

It’s started among homosexual men but has also moved into heterosexual men (male-female).

visitor9000 wrote: Sun Mar 13, 2022 9:28 pm But that's foot fetish specifically, which doesn't necessarily have that much overlap with liking sneakers or other shoes specifically. Paraphilias (fetishes for inanimate objects) in general are somewhat more prevalent in men than women.

The fetish for sneakers can also be just for the inanimate object (and worn) and not necessarily connected to foot fetish. It depends on what causes pleasure between shoes and feet.
See only wearing shoes and only touch them with hands.
Lick them, get kicked or trampling.
Be masturbated with them.
Take off and sniff them.

visitor9000 wrote: Sun Mar 13, 2022 9:28 pm There's some suggestion that being on the autism spectrum is correlated with paraphilias, probably in the same way as other "intense interests" like trains and cars, but I don't know how robust that link is. Not usually a focus of the studies on autism.

The spectrum of autism probably increases the possibility of developing various types of fetishes but IMHO I think that any type of person can develop them randomly or probably because connected to specific people, experiences or situations, for them particularly positive and pleasant, that had started it.

You are are hella educated on the matter from what it seems.
From personal experience, I used to believe that my fetish developed when I hit puberty, connecting attractive women to the shoes they wear. But I also recently remembered being very into some other shoes I had, but pre puberty so not really horny. An odd feeling of shame and embarrassment but also good? Idk. So probably tied to an experience I had or something. Just my thoughts on it.

Thatoneguy109 wrote: Fri Mar 18, 2022 7:52 pm From personal experience, I used to believe that my fetish developed when I hit puberty, connecting attractive women to the shoes they wear. But I also recently remembered being very into some other shoes I had, but pre puberty so not really horny. An odd feeling of shame and embarrassment but also good? Idk. So probably tied to an experience I had or something. Just my thoughts on it.

Since I started to develop sneaker fetish (in the preteen age) I often connect them to the most attractive but also smart, cheerful and funny girls.

The good experiences connected between sneakers and girls I don’t think must be necessarily particular. More simply it can be a detail that we have often noticed in the girls who have attracted us the most, observing them in their behaviors that we liked the most.

I guess I'll throw my thoughts in on some of the points that have been brought up:

I have personally known a few women who would gladly participate in shoe fetish activities, but I've only known two women who enjoyed shoe fetish in a sexual way in the same way that us guys tend to. By that I mean smelling, licking, rubbing against/masturbating with them and so on. One of these women is a lesbian who likes to play with her own or her girlfriend's shoes, and the other was bisexual and kept to her own shoes. But they both very much got off on it. Interestingly neither of them like the stereotypical heels or whatever, one preferred canvas shoes, Vans/Keds/Converse, and the other woman was exclusively into her flip flops. I think the sexuality matters some, I've never known a completely straight woman who has any sort of kink or fetish honestly.

I'm not sure that I'm autistic, but I suspect I'm on the spectrum with the kinds of hobbies and interests I have. It would make some sense that people with autism might be into more fetishistic or ritualized behavior in general. I'm not the sort of guy that can memorize brands and lines and colorways of sneakers, though.

If I like a girl I'm going to like her shoes more, and for me there is a strong foot fetish connection too. I get shoes exclusively from women who I'm friends with and I'm generally honest about why I want them (some of them are willing to give me old shoes, or even sell to me knowing why I want them, but they may not want details). It's a bigger thrill for me to get them legit like that, but when I first indulged in the fetish I was "borrowing" shoes. I never outright stole anything that wasn't already getting thrown out.

As far as formative experiences with the fetish I'll quote another post I made a while back about what got me started...

fixation5170 wrote: Sat Nov 06, 2021 10:23 am I remember liking shoes around the same time I realized I had a foot fetish and all the urges that come with that. And I spent my teenage years appreciating sexy girls' feet and nice shoes, but no more. My first opportunity to get my hands on shoes was my best friend's mom's shoe rack, which was in a small bathroom off in the hall from her bedroom. It was this little room with a toilet, washer & dryer, and the shoe rack mounted inside the door. I'd crash at my friend's place a lot of nights, and his mom worked nights while my friend was a "wake up at the crack of noon" guy. So it was super easy to get up at 7 or 8 am and head for that bathroom with my morning wood, jack off and take a leak. Plenty of time and privacy and never even got close to getting caught. At first I would just rub my cock on them but eventually got into smelling and licking them too. They were mostly sandals, low kitten heels, just slightly dressier shoes. But they were worn in nicely and I found myself being pulled more and more to the more heavily worn stuff too, toe prints and the like. I literally got to do this for years, from the ages of 15 to maybe 19 or so. At first I'd just cum right in the toilet, but I got more daring as time went by. The mom had a clothes hamper full of her stuff so sometimes I'd blow my load on her dirty panties. Or she would leave sneakers in there and I'd slide in and cum in the toe. Big teen guy loads that I can't shoot anymore, lol. But yeah, it just worked out that this woman's choice to keep all her goodies in that little side bathroom probably helped shape me into an enormous pervert and for that I salute her.

fixation5170 wrote: Sat Mar 26, 2022 8:53 am If I like a girl I'm going to like her shoes more, and for me there is a strong foot fetish connection too.

This is definitely A Thing. Everyone has different tastes; I know a lot of what I like is shaped by memories or everyday experience of attractive women who wear <x>. That makes me like model <x> more, even if I originally didn't like it. I have a number of pairs that were purchased entirely cause some attractive girl impressed me with them - like Candide or Stepsie (RIP) on here.

It works in the other direction too - sometimes there's women I find deeply unattractive, or that I don't get along with for other reasons. If they just happen to wear <y>, sometimes that makes me end up hating model <y>, even if I originally liked it! Having something ruined in this way is always really disappointing, especially if I already bought a pair. In either case, there's definitely some overlap between attraction to a person and attraction to the shoes, beyond the sum of each like independent of the other.

(Classic question: would you date an attractive person with terrible taste in shoes, or someone with fantastic taste who's not otherwise attractive? I think answeing that honestly shows the relative strength of each component.)