Shoesession

For what its worth, I dated a woman in her 30s who was an ex swinger. She and her ex divorced and she continued to swing for a bit after that, but she was pretty upfront and said she had about 100 different guys. It didn't really bother me, but I wanted to be sure that I was her only one at that point in her life.

If I had been with roughly the same number of women then it wouldn't matter. Also it would depend on whether how many were just one night stands and how many were more serious relationships.

If there were quite a few serious relationships then there are 2 options
1) enjoy this girl and don't worry too much
2) if considering getting serious then I would want an honest answer as to why she broke up so many times and/or what makes me better than the other men - and as I am an average kind of guy, the only answer that I would accept is that she needs someone who likes wearing and fucking her shoes

Sheepdawg wrote: ↑Tue Sep 05, 2017 7:01 am

Salvagedrover wrote: ↑Mon Sep 04, 2017 10:57 pm Why not? What's wrong with her having relationships before you came along? I've been with over 30 women, and my g/f is with me. How many women have YOU honestly been with? Are you a virgin or something? Lol

I've been with 4 women. It's not wrong that she had sex and relationships with other men before me. it's just that I think that the number is scary. I mean c'mon, 30 men when you're under 29? Is it normal these days ?

Yes, young women from 15-30 are extremely promiscuous as they're experimenting with life and themselves. If she's STILL screwing around that much after 30, stay away. But 30 before 30 isn't a big deal at all. Use a condom and confidently ask that you both take STD/AIDS tests together. If you mean anything to her, she'll agree. If not and she's adamantly against it, she's not serious or mature enough for a serious relationship. There are lots of women out there my friend, I met mine out of the blue playing beach volleyball with a bunch of friends, if she's a match, she'll already be doing the same things you do, and that's how you'll probably meet her. Be safe, and just get out and do things, she'll find you.

Well, if it is a concern, then perhaps talk with her about it? If you are worried about disease, then suggest you both get tested before sleeping together so not to offend her. If you are worried that you may not be great compared to other lovers as she has a lot of experience, talk to her about that too. Most women have no problem with teaching a guy what she likes when he asks.

If it was 30 relationships... i would be worried. if it was just thirty playmates? A lot of people swing, do group sex, and are poly, and just be sure you both get tested

I guess it all depends what you are looking for. I still occasionally meet up with the ex swinger. Our encounters are always outstanding. I think the idea of her being with so many different guys, that she is open to do anything, that no is not in her vocabulary, that she doesn't make me wear a condom, makes it great for me.

I don´t think it should bother you.. I mean we all have a past. I myself have been with quite a lot of women (I like women also) and it doesn´t bother me as long as there only with me at that point.. I also dated a former escort once (from this agency, I had never heard of them before: http://www.amysescortslondon.com/ ) and it might have bothered some people but not me.. Feelings overshadow other things like the past, or at least they should..

That will be hard to say.